Looking for something to do Jan 20, 2009

Join the Delta's of Federal City Alumnae Chapter (WDC) and the Concerned Black Men - National Organization for a fun filled evening. Proceeds will support community efforts of both organizations.

Visit WWW.CBMDeltaGala.org for additional information and ticket purchases.

Visit www.thefcacdst.org for more info on The Federal City Alumnae Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. :-)

Comments that make me angry

So some lovely IDIOT posted this on NBC4.com today in response to the attach article.
Celebration in Black Churches across America

Here is his comment:
no color 1 minute ago FLAG COMMENT It is so funny that they think Obama is black. Born to a white women and raised by a white family how in the world can you call him black. Oh yes, his daddy had sex with a white women and then split. That part makes sense. Obama is more white than anything. Furthermore he is an American and that's how I see him. All he talks about is getting Americans back to work so they can support themselves. That dosen't sound like a black man to me. Maybe if he wanted to increase wellfare and food stamps then I would beleive he was black. Obama, more white than black.

Here was mine:
THEY think he is black because for far too long YOU have told children of mixed race that if they are partly black they cannot be white. So maybe instead of saying that because he able to think of the US with forward thought and progressive views that do not include welfare that he is white, come out of your box and visit the real world. There are plenty black people around the world that feel the same way as President Elect Obama in his views of socialism. Color should not matter, his goal is for all people. Something narrow minded individuals continue to fail to get.

11:03PM - Nov 4, 2008 -- Barak Obama is Elected President

As I sit in Twelve Lounge in DC with Sorors and Friends, CNN sends across a breaking news flash a few seconds after the polls close on the West Coast. Barak Obama is elected president. History in the making and there is nothing greater than the feeling knowing that years after slavery, Jim Crow, segregation, bus boycotts and marches - 40 years after Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. had a Dream - the Dream is no longer deferred. It is indeed a blessing to know that my Grandparents from Georgia who are in their 80's are alive to see this greatly historic evening.

Would you let their $1.50 go to waste

This is absolutely touching. Don't let the voice of those that had to pay a Poll Tax to vote go unheard.

She is a Joke

Clearly Gov. Palin is clueless and lacks the ability to be in power anywhere including a State. LOL. WoW!!!! Even when they told her she was pranked she was like what???? LOL..

Wasssup 2008

Love it!

Traffic-Gate????

Joe McCain calls 911 because he was stuck in traffic on the Woodrow Wilson Bridge... LOL....

Will this be the next abuse of power and privilege? LOL... He called them twice cause he was stuck in traffic. For real, don't we all wish we could just call and get a fix for traffic. I'd really like to know he thought they were going to be able to do for him.....IDIOTS (Joe and John)

Read it for yourself

PV Beats Southern

Who Ya Rooting For???? P-V-U

So all the haters that constantly remind me of that exacerbated losing streak that we actually ended in 1998. For real people, its been 10 years since that run of losses.. LOL..

So here is something new for you to talk about. PV beating Southern University 24-23 on October 25, 2008 thus making our record 7-1.

What a difference 6-7 months make.....

Enjoy! I sure did.

It is funny how the topic can be seen so differently when its a problem of yours now.

That Will Not Work

This was aired before Johnnie's announcement on Friday. LOL. Now when Pat Buchanan and Joe Scarborough say this is crazy. And they are real Republicans.... LOL... Thank you McCain. Thanks for helping Obama really make history as the 1st African American President.

History

45 years to the day, a black man marveled during his time, Martin Luther King Jr. delivered his I have a dream speech to a massive crowd that wanted Change. Ironically, we sit here in History once again with Senator Barak Obama looking to galvanize the people to continue the proliferation of change that is not only needed but long overdue. Last night we sat in Bear Rock Cafe watching CSPAN with other adoring Democratic fans. Not because we could not have watched silently in our homes, but the change that we seek should not be a single persons burden. In a mixed crowd of all races and sexes we cheered as Al Gore spoke, as MLK III spoke and hollered when Barney Smith said he wanted a president that "Put Barney Smith ahead of Smith Barney."

When speaking with my Grandparents earlier this week, it was interesting to hear how proud they were that an African American man was the Democratic nominee. By the same breath, they also said its gonna be a tough fight. Not that a Presidential fight is not common, but they (the Republicans) have 72 more days to continue the craziness.

Now that you have seen the acceptance speech, what are you gonna do now. We have the chance to see history twice in 2008 but it will not happen if you just watch TV. Get out to vote, take a carload of friends with you and make our Parents and Grandparents proud to have worked toward history 45 years ago.

Volunteer NOW!!!

Go Obama, Go Obama GO!!!!

History is Made! and I am so proud to have been alive to see it. The people (not just african-american people --- all kinds of people) have spoken. Now its time for Bill-ary to take a seat and stop with the mess.

We are trying something new.........

So CW and I are trying to do the Fat Smash Diet and gonna make it work this time.. LOL..... So the whole thing starts with a 9 day detox consisting of Fruits and veggies mostly with a few other things

So exercise is essential and I will try to blog my progress.......

So here we go:

Day 1

30 minutes - Treadmill

Breakfast

Bryer's Smooth and Creamy Yogurt

Apple slices

1/2 Bananna

A New Start at WW

So I am on the SERIOUS quest to loose some pounds. Now I have tried WW before, but never - ever stuck with it......Why this time...... well I need to do this for ME. I want to complete another 3-day this year and have a couple of weddings coming up! Must look fabulous!!!!

Here is where I am starting!

1. Eat at least five servings of fruits and vegetables per day. A serving is ½ cup, except for leafy greens which are 1 cup per serving. For those over 350 pounds, 9 servings is recommended.

2. Get at least two servings of calcium a day. Eat at least 2 servings of non- or low-fat milk products each day. A serving is 1 cup. Increase to 3 servings if you’re over 50 or weigh more than 250 pounds.

3. Drink at least six 8-ounce glasses of water each day. If this is hard for you, try flavoring your water with fruit or cucumber. Cups with measurements and/or built-in straws help too. Up to half of your daily fluid intake can come from decaffeinated drinks other than water, such as milk, juice or herbal tea.

4. Make sure you get enough protein. A serving or two a day will keep you healthy. Choose low-fat sources such as skinless poultry, lean meat, fish and eggs.

5. Have 2 teaspoons of healthy oil each day. Two teaspoons of olive, canola, safflower, sunflower or flaxseed oil are recommended — so your body gets the vitamin E and essential fatty acids it needs.

6. Take a multiple vitamin-mineral supplement every day. Everybody’s different, so talk to your doctor to figure out the right multivitamin for you.

7. Choose whole grains whenever possible. Choose whole-wheat (or oat or multigrain) bread, instead of bread made with refined white flour; whole-wheat pasta instead of white; and brown rice instead of white.

8. Limit added sugar and alcohol. Both contain empty calories. Avoid processed foods with added sugar. And experts recommend no more than one serving of alcohol per day for women, and no more than two per day for men.

IS He the One????

Is HE the ONE?

THE RIGHT ONE
First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it's made on an emotional one.

"What about love? Shouldn't that be the third? you ask. No, and I'll tell you why. "The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jeremiah 17:9).

The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things rationally and intelligently it just loves to love! Therefore you have to point it in the right direction: "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Proverbs 4:23).

Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage.

Dating exists not for mating ; it exists for collecting data. I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship and then marriage.

Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together.


Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively - it is the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage.

But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather these facts.

1. Check out the fabric. Is the person mate material? Does this man have an intimate relationship with the Father through Jesus Christ? Does he care what God thinks about his behavior? Is he accountable to God as well as another co-laborer in the faith? Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a committed relationship. Is your potential spouse a member of the same family - the family of God?

You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things. You have like interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues.

You have had like experiences in your background. Though there is some truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better together.

Furthermore, does he want to get married? If you want to be married and your dreamboat isn't interested, don't waste your time.

REMEMBER, WOMEN FALL IN LOVE AND GET MARRIED. MEN DECIDE TO GET MARRIED AND THEN LOOK FOR A WIFE. Note the difference in order. So if a guy says he's not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he's not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one.

2. Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you? The man who is right for you will pursue you, and God's hand in the relationship will be clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends.

Scripture says: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22). <>
Note -who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time, God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them together.

At the RIGHT TIME, He will bring that man on the scene when you're least expecting it and he will find you. In some cases God will bring that right man in your life and snatch him out of your life for a short while until the right time presents itself. In God's perfect design, the man is the one who recognizes his mate. Adam has no problem recognizing that Eve was his missing rib. You do not need to strategically place yourself anywhere. You don't have to help a guy out because he's shy!

Men will do whatever they have to do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand. If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested.

Mary a woman's mother has suggested that it is a good idea to marry a man who loves you more than you love him. As cold as that sounds, it actually might be scriptural if you stop to think about it: "We love him because he first loved us" (1 John 4:19). Until then, take the ultimate chill pill. You don't need a BUNCH of men in your life to make you feel all right about yourself.

You need only one man - your man, the one God has selected to select you. And trust me, the right man at the wrong time can be just as awful as the wrong man at any time. So trust God's timing in this. He is the ultimate matchmaker. Relax, sit pretty and allow yourself to be found. Again - WAIT until the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in establishing the relationship. You may have an inkling that he is the one and it is only God who gives you that inkling because Satan is not for marriages or special relationships but God will use the man to set the tone of the relationship. Allow him the opportunity to woo you - this is your first act of submission. Jesus set the standard for all men to follow. They should love us first. And they should lead the relationship.

3. The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only into your heart. A man who prepares for your future has made his intentions clear. A man who is husband material has the means to take care of a wife. He is a responsible human being who understands he needs to have something to offer. In short, a man should have the means to be a suitable lover for you.

4. Check out his buddies. Everyone knows birds of the same feather flock together, yet most women fail to see the connection between a man and his friends. A man's pals tell you a lot about the person that you haven't seen yet. They reveal things about the guy's character that might be hidden when he is on good behavior. Everyone knows how to put his best foot forward. Don't stay focused on the foot, check out the rest of the body!

5. Check out his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her? This is your preview of how he will treat you. There are lots of men who, because of a negative relationship with their mothers, really don't like women, yet say they do. Unresolved issues between mother and son continue between husband and wife.

6. Remember that a man's family reveals the cloth from which he's cut. Take note and decide whether you want your future with the man in your life to look like
his present family situation.

7. Check out the patterns of his life. Do you see repeated cycles of drama in his personal kingdom? Unforgiving heart? Broken relationships? Problems in making commitments --including the job market? Mood swings? Lack of communication? Is a problem always someone else's fault? Does he embrace responsibility or shirk it? Does he keep his promises? Is he a man of good reputation? Remember all garments look wonderful hanging in the store, but with wear, some begin to unravel. Give yourself time and space to check out the man in your life. Time will always reveal whether or not he is made of the right stuff.

8. Does this man have a vision for his life? Is he running with that vision? Remember, God decided Adam needed help once Adam got busy DOING his assignment. As we saw Adam, a man doesn't need help until he is busy doing what he was created and called to do. Is the man in your life guided by sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow life to happen around him? A man who is not certain of his mission can be a most miserable person - and you'll be miserable too if you know where YOU want to go in life.

A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission statement is clear. He will be your best ally, cheerleader and assistant because he wants you both to make it! A man who cannot be supportive of your achievements because he is floundering in a sea of uncertainty over his own life is not a healthy partner to have and to hold forever.

Creating dependencies or feelings of obligation is not the way to get the best out of your man. Somewhere along the way, he will resent you and flee from the smothering burden of obligation he associates you with. You want a man who is firmly anchored in his identity in Christ. Remember, we are looking for a man who will be priest and leader of his home. His first instinct should be to want to cover you, redeem you, and provide for you. Your job is to decide if this is the man God has ordained for you to complement.

9. Complimentary. Do your talents and gifts complement his? Do his gifts, compliment yours? What about your temperaments? Do you see the two of you as an effective team capable of bringing blessing to the lives of those around you? Do your futures mesh? Can you coordinate your gifts in an attractive and effective way?

This is why knowing your purpose is so important. Make sure your hearts beat for mutual causes. When I go shopping I always consider the fabric, the fit and what I already have in my closet. Will my next purchase be a complimentary addition to what I already have? If I find that I am going to have to buy shoes and matching accessories to go with a new outfit, I leave it right on the rack. It is too expensive a proposition.. If the man you meet makes you feel that you need to completely reinvent yourself, something is wrong.

This is where I ask you to consider the relationship in terms of cost. Is this relationship expensive spiritually, emotional or physically? Does your longing for a mate make you willing to forfeit who you are in the process? Or does he see you as the gift that you are? The man in your life should consider you a rare find, a priceless jewel-because of you he is getting ready to get blessed big-time! Any relationship that causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable, undesirable or that you have to work for love, is too expensive!

God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be richer in mind, body and spirit for your union with the man of your dreams. The man in your life should make rich deposits into your heart and spirit, not withdrawals.

10. Does he have a healthy love and acceptance of himself? Make sure the man in your life has taken time to heal from past relationships and has made peace with himself. How he cares for himself is how he will care for you.
A man's relationship with God is crucial here.. His love for himself will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something that you can impart. You cannot be his savior or teacher. That is out of spiritual order. In his rightful place as your personal priest, he should be leading you to a richer relationship with Christ.

If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk, if he is leading you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted from your commitment to God, the relationship is too expensive. Offending the Lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too high a fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your man can't soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able to survive.

So you decide. How much is your life worth? How much is your love worth? You will be able to accept only what you believe you deserve. God himself calculated the worth of your love and decided it was worth His life. He now pledges you His love for eternity. Yes, Jesus sets the example for all others to follow when He paid a ransom for His bride. Should you expect less from a mortal man? Throughout the Biblical age, men were willing to pay the cost for what they truly desired. The truth of the matter is, everyone knows that anything worth having, costs and no one gets a ride in this life for free.

Our prayer:
Dear Heavenly Mother/Father, God
I confess that I have not always been as careful as I should've been with my heart. From time to time, my desire for love has caused me to leave my heart in the wrong hands. I now commit my heart into Your hands for safekeeping. Please help me to stop being so impulsive with what you deem so precious. As I learn to celebrate Your love for me, let me learn from Your example what a bridegroom should really be like. Help me to never settle for less than what you desire for me. As I embrace You as the Lover of my soul, keep my affections in the haven of Your own heart. As I rest in Your love, make me more discriminating of those who approach me.

I ask that You take over this area of my life.. Keep me from those You know would hurt my heart. I invite You to set a hedge around me and keep me from all who would draw me into unfruitful relationships until the day you present me to the mate that You have selected for me.. Grant me the discernment to recognize him as he recognizes me. Cleanse me from the temptation to typecast the men I meet according to what I see. Help me to trust in Your knowledge and lean not on my own understanding. I know that You know what is best for me; therefore I yield to Your choice. In Jesus Name. Amen.

Ladies this is something you should definitely share with a friend, whether you are single or married... It is something to think about, When you ask is "He" the one!

"Every time you suppress some part of yourself or allow others to play you small, you are in essence ignoring the owner's manual your creator gave you and destroying your design." --Oprah Winfrey